Further reading

Much of the thinking in The Hive comes from people who've spent careers on this. If any of it resonated, go to the source:

The Gottman Institute — decades of observational research on how couples argue, repair, and stay connected. Most of our “How we talk” track leans on this work.

Eve Rodsky, Fair Play — on household labour as a system, and why owning a whole job is different from helping with a task.

Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication — the observation / feeling / need / request pattern.

On fairness specifically, there's a substantial body of academic work finding that how fair people feel the split is predicts relationship satisfaction better than how evenly it's actually divided. That finding is why this app is built the way it is.

We've written everything here in our own words. The ideas aren't ours.